Today I am going to continue as we consider other pillars that are necessary for building and sustaining healthy relationships, remember healthy relationships are not accidental they must be built; nothing works in relationship without you working on it and walking in it.
3. Pillar of Chemistry: Whatever connects you to a guy or lady in relationship goes a long way to determine what the relationship is made of. The concept of chemistry in relationship can just be simply described as the natural connection between a male and a female.
It is the reaction in place when two people meet. Chemistry stands for the force of attraction, what is attracting a lady to a guy and the guy to the lady. This could either be infatuation/lust or love. These two are the possible force of attraction in every relationship, but only one which is love makes a healthy relationship.
Infatuation/ lust: Infatuation begins with a physical attraction. It is the state of being completely carried away by unreasoned passion or love; addictive love. Lust on the other side is an uncontrollable desire to satisfy one’s sexual appetite.
You meet someone and you are instantly attracted to them, you find it difficult to think clearly because your thoughts are plagued by their presence. They have obviously captivated you with their charm, elegance, intelligence, etc.
You can't help thinking about that person whether you're with him/her or not. All these are characteristic of a person under the chemistry of infatuation
Love: Love on the other side is more concerned about the personality more than the physical attraction. True love seeks the welfare of the other in a relationship. It is not all about emotion; it has a touch of commitment and sincerity.
Love is based on trust, loyalty, and mutual commitment. It’s about accepting each other for who you are and not who you imagine the other person to be.
A relationship based on love evolves as you learn to give and take, make compromises, respect each other as separate individuals, and encourage each other to follow dreams and goals.
4. Pillar of Character: Healthy relationships are sustained by good characters; without good characters, relationship crumbles. Character is an asset in life and relationship, it is who you are, the sum of all the qualities you possess. Character is what makes you YOU.
Character is not a gift, it is what we build and develop. Pride, selfishness, ingratitude, unforgiving, disrespect, anger, lying etc are major negative characters that ruin relationships. To build and sustain healthy relationships, you must uphold mutual respect, integrity, kindness, tolerance and appreciation.
5. Pillar of Communication: Without effective and efficient communication, relationship becomes a burden, love will not grow, disagreement will prevail and trouble sets in. Communication in relationship is not all about what you say, but also the way it is being said.
It is not just about speaking it involves listening. Communication is the key to overcoming doubts and misunderstandings, it keeps relationships bonded. In building and sustaining healthy relationships, develop good relationship skills – knowing what to say, when to say it, how to say it etc.
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